In my mind, there’s a future me who is a bible teacher and coach. My words flow into books and courses, which then help women find a greater appreciation of who God created them to be. But, my books and courses won’t reach the people who need them if I don’t act. This is my dream and no one else is going to make it happen. I’m not sure what your dream is, but I know only you can build your dream.
No one else cares like you do
Ok, maybe that line is a little harsh, but it’s true. No one else cares about your dream like you do. Not your husband, best friend, kids, no one. Wanna know why? Because we all have a dream and bringing it to life is hard work. If we’re committed to our dreams, the most we can do is support others. We cannot do the work to bring someone’s dream to life.
Take a breath and give me a chance. This is not a license to throw your hands up and walk away. You don’t get off that easy.
Let’s reframe your potential disappointment into freedom to be who God created you to be and grace for who you are not supposed to be. You be you, I’ll be me, and we can cheer each other on along the way.
We need our people. We need encouragement. But, we also need to be reasonable about the expectations we’re putting on others. God has not given either of us the same dream. He didn’t gift us identical purposes.
You can do this.
Build slow or build fast, just build
Believe it or not, I started writing with a free Blogspot blog ten years ago. I was headed on my first trip to Guatemala and wanted a way to share the experience with others. Of course, I was also afraid of being a bad writer so I didn’t tell many people.
Small step by small step, my blog turned into this website. The words on the website became a book proposal. The book proposal became a deeper conversation I want to have with other women. And now, I’m coaching.
I’ve watched friends online go from new blogger to published author in 2 or 3 years. I’ve seen their platform grow to thousands of followers, earning them the coveted swipe-up Instagram feature. And at times, I’ve been jealous and disappointed because my timeline hasn’t kept pace with theirs.
It turns out, I’m a slow builder. And apparently, God had a lot of work for me to do. I tried to transition out of our family business for 3 or 4 years before being mostly successful in 2020. Working at the orphanage was never something on my radar. As someone who always felt slightly outside the norm, I certainly didn’t want to work in women’s ministry.
A decade later, here we are—closer to where God wants me to be. It’s been a decade of building slowly, watching his plan come together one piece at a time, trying to decide on the best place to build and who to invite.
Only you can build your dream
In no uncertain terms, only you can build your dream.
Although it’s not our job, my husband and I really like to build things. Let me put this in construction terms.
God is the architect, engineer, and project manager. He’s the person with the plans. He’s also the person who gets to make the changes to those plans.
You are the laborer. He asks you to do the hard work.
Yes, he will guide you. Yes, there will be people to help at times. But, the responsibility of bringing his plan to life is yours alone. Only you can build your dream, which in reality is his plan.
It’s time to start building.
Your next steps
Start small with these questions.
What are you good at?
What are you passionate about?
How has God been nudging you?